It’s the time of year to make numerous resolutions and commit to new lifestyles and healthy habits, which also often translates to fixing less-than-flattering traits or habits. I admit to a handful of resolutions that are probably on most people’s lists: flossing, exercising more often, eating healthier, finding a mentor, calling friends regularly, etc. (Looking for a more selfless resolution this year? Check out Jen’s ideas on advocating for girls!) While we emphasize goal-setting for positive change in our Girls Inc. curriculum, I was reminded of another important resolution after visiting a Work It Out program of girls ages 9-11.

One version of healthy that we talk a lot about at Girls Inc. is healthy relationships, and much of this conversation revolves around healthy friendships with peers. (As you are probably aware, friendships among middle school girls can be a doosie to navigate.) However, the piece I was struck by most in the program was the importance of being a good friend to yourself first. The program facilitators explained that in order to be a good friend – or co-worker, family member, grocery store shopper, etc. – we must first acknowledge our strengths and abilities and like who we are. Being a good friend to yourself makes you a better friend to others. (Read about an activity where girls find their positives and dispel negative self-talk!) So even though “resolution season” means finding things to improve about yourself, find time to also love and appreciate the things that are uniquely you. Need a little inspiration? Check out the pledges below from girls at Theodore Potter.

At the end of the Work It Out program, girls made pledges to not only “stop the drama and support girl power in our lives,” but also be a better friend to themselves: